MY ARRIVAL IS TAKING PLACE, I AM FINALLY HERE!!

I am experiencing an awareness, a rather large awareness!  I feel this new found self-confidence, this sense of "Knowing" and a feeling that I am arriving - if that makes sense?  

I found yesterday, that in any conversations I had throughout the day; I felt very confident and secure with myself.  It's really hard to explain exactly what the feeling is but, it's good I know that much!


I am still working through the buildings in YOU University and my two classmates have both graduated already.  At first, I used to get upset with myself at how much further ahead they were than me.  I felt like I was slacking and it made me angry with myself. 

I later realized that, all of us are on our own individual journeys and I am working at the exact pace that I am meant to for my journey!  It isn't a race and we all pretty much started at different times anyhow, needless to say I got over it quickly.


I am excited to be at a point in my journey where the transformation is apparent to all who know me.  I've been asked what am I doing, told that I am glowing and even that I look much younger and happy!  Loving it!! lol

It's been just six months since I started in YOU University.  The program is designed to take approximately six months.  Some people will take longer to complete it and some will take less time, either way that is okay.



I just really am proud of myself for sticking with it and not running when I started facing the emotional work!  After all, this is the first time I have ever not quit a program of this nature. By that I mean, a program designed to better myself and deal with unresolved issues.  I just wasn't totally ready and the other programs I attempted to try were closer to what I was looking for but, not enough so to keep my attention.

It's like, each time I found a new program; it was better than the previous one and more of what I wanted.  So, when I finally found YOU University I knew immediately that this was it!  This is the program for me, it has everything I was looking for and more!!


I am about halfway through the program and I will tell you; that with each completed building, my experiences continue to unfold and I love this program!!

LOVE LETTERS

  Before I learned about the "Love Letters" technique, I was notorious for writing letters when I was upset with someone in my family! Of course, I had no format to follow and most of the letters were given to the people. There were some letters, that I didn't give to the person.

I learned this letter writing trick from my parents, mainly my dad. You knew something was up when you got a letter from dad! My dad would give us the silent treatment when he was mad at us and then usually follow it up with a letter. His letters most times, left you feeling pretty crappy!

I can admit that even back then, I always felt better writing a letter and getting the issue off my chest. Even if I didn't give it to the person, I still felt better just writing it. I rationalized it like this, by writing a letter I could make sure to say everything that I wanted to. I would normally forget things if I just tried talking with the person and then left the conversation feeling more upset, that I didn't say all that I wanted too. I also felt that by writing the person a letter they could take the time to read it and process what I had said to them and then we could perhaps talk things over.

I definitely had the right idea, I was just lacking the correct format to use for positive results!! I really love the "Love Letter" technique!

I am thinking about perhaps, first using the "Love Letter" technique prior to talking with the person I am upset with. If I do that first, I feel that I will have gotten a start on feeling better and will be in a better position to discuss the problem without getting real upset and/or heated. I don't mean that I will give the letter to them but, just write it and get it out & off my chest first before approaching them.

I am definitely to the point in my journey, that I am ready to take the necessary steps needed for myself. I am no longer trying to come up with all of these reasons not to just say what I want to, so that the person isn't offended, hurt, or angered.

I have put myself on the back burner for far too long now and that's stopping effectively immediately!! I am growing so much with each day in YOU U, with every call I am on, and importantly with each new tool I learn and use!! Combine all of that with the journaling and all of the support and connection between all of us and WOW!! LOVING IT !!!!!!!!

POINTERS, TIPS & ADVICE for YOU University Students

Once again, it's been awhile since my last entry. I went to bed the other night, only to be bombarded with some information that I felt compelled to get up & write down! I realized it would be great information to share with future YOU University students.

YOU University has been & is such a wonderful, life changing program for me. As I work my way through each building and experience healing, growth, and learning; I have come across some things to share.


I decided to share these tips to help those, who will be embarking upon their journey through the program. I do so to be of help, to share some of what I experienced in hopes of helping to make your journey easier for you.


The following is what I've learned in YOU University:

1. I realized it takes complete focus & consistency throughout.
2. Very important, Do Not
3. I learned that I needed to totally commit to myself to give 100% all of the time & to stick with it, through facing my emotionally charged issues.
4. compare yourself and where you are at in the program to your fellow students. Just work at your own pace & trust that you are right where you need to be!
5. A crucial component is complete honesty, you must remain completely open & honest with yourself. If your not, the only one your hurting is yourself!!
6. Something I discovered during a very tough time in my journey, that helped me big time! It said that experiencing 1 or more of the following manifestations IS PROOF that your self-mastery process is working: 

• An increase in old, dysfunctional behaviors.
• Distinguishable amounts of yelling, crying, talking, excessive activity, physical ailments, or illness.
• Feelings of depression, anxiety, numbness, dissociation, being "Zoned-Out".
• An increase in compulsive behaviors such as alcohol, drugs, sex, food, TV watching.
• Feelings of confusion, uneasiness.
• Feelings of anger, hatred, or resentment.
• Justifications and rationalizations.

That information was found in a book I have had and read most of. None of which truly resonated with me until now!!!

I am sure to come across more but, for now that's what I have.

I hope this information helps my future fellow YOU U students.

Testimonial of Appreciation for YOU University

I am working through YOU University & I really cannot say enough great things about this program, seriously!! The results to date that I have experienced can be noticed not only by myself & the others who are going through the program as well but, my family & friends too.

I found this program by accident or so I thought? I have met the most wonderful people who are so supportive, caring, & all around a great group! I have gained wonderful new friends that are all over the world. California, Oregon, United Kingdom, Australia, and the group continues to grow daily.

Sure, there are a lot of Life Coach training programs out there. But, this one is the most comprehensive one I have come across. You get a great curriculum, add the support of weekly group calls and peer coaching calls then add time on Google Wave & there is pretty much not a time when you cannot get the support you may need or want! Friendships quickly develop & I love having like minded people that get me & what I am trying to do. 

The curriculum is done online at your own pace & it's powerful stuff! I love that the exact material that I will take my clients through is the very material I have completed myself! The tools & techniques I will teach clients, I learned & will use for the rest of my life too.

You don't buy into a program, do the work alone & then send for a certificate of completion. You are never alone & you will earn your certificate but, you will be a better much happier person in doing so!! That's not a promise, it's a fact! If you do the work, participate in the calls & other activities & you are completely honest with yourself when you do the work & give 100% throughout the entire process you learn so much & you reap such priceless rewards.

I absolutely love YOU University & I am loving my journey home to myself. I have come up against resistance & I have learned to recognize it quicker & push through it. I am learning & loving what I learn. It will be used in my own Life Coaching business & in my own life. I look forward to what each new lesson will bring & I greatly anticipate our weekly group calls as well!

WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE ABOUT?

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Post Publicly Thende04 | pop  After giving this topic some more thought, I became very inspired. I realized what an extremely valuable opportunity I have before me!!I am in a position to take my life experience's and use them for a higher purpose. These experiences that are bad memories, that caused me so much pain and in some c more... Thende04 | pop  After giving this topic some more thought, I became very inspired. I realized what an extremely valuable opportunity I have before me!! I am in a position to take my life experience's and use them for a higher purpose. These experiences that are bad memories, that caused me so much pain and in some cases even traumatized me! I have always thought that there had to be more and I just knew deep inside, that I was meant for bigger & better things in my life. My first & foremost goal is and has been to heal, heal from my past as well as my present! I've known that in order to move forward, I would have to face any/all unresolved issues and work through them, in order to heal!! My desire to heal & help others was & is strong enough to do exactly what I need to do. I have a burning desire in the pit of my stomach, a desire to make a difference! And now, because of You University I have the means to do just that!! As I continue on through You U, facing that which has kept me a prisoner in my own mind for so long, the release I feel from working through these painful life experiences, has given me a new lease on life!!! I have wanted to be my own boss and own a highly successful home based business for many years now. However, I was never able to follow through to make it happen. I would take one step forward and then several steps backwards! I pretty much was the only one standing in my own way but, it was easier to make excuses and point the finger. In other words remain in a victim stance! Then it hit me like a ton of bricks, I woke up one day and knew that it was time to get it together for real! I began my search for the missing piece to the puzzle, the thing that would allow me to heal and move forward towards achieving my dreams. Now, I can use growing up in a dysfunctional home with parents who divorced & remarried, parents who were both alcoholics & addicts, to relate to others who may be where I once was! I can use my marriage of 10yrs. in which I was abused physically, mentally, & emotionally to reach out to other woman who are emotionally scarred and in need of help! As my wise Fairy Godmother once said: "Your Life Experiences Are Your Credentials!" In that case I am proud to say that I have many, many more credentials with which to reach out & share what I have and am learning! I have the ability to reach a broad variety of people who may be experiencing one of the many Life Experiences I have went through. To know that I can relate to so many different situations and I come from an authentic place of truly wanting to help others and make a positive impact in the biggest way possible. Well, that is my driving force and I look forward to being the best damn "You University Life Coach" I can be!!

"YOU UNIVERSITY TESTIMONIAL"

Time to share another testimonial as to You University and what it has done for me.

I was blessed to experience a very deep and profound healing through You University.  I received a phone call from a friend who wanted to tell me about a call she received from a relative of mine.

This relative is an Aunt, my dads sister and my godmother as well. We have a rocky history, filled with many attempts from her to cause total chaos and pain in my life. I have forgiven her several times only to be on the receiving end of her attacks against me time and time again.

I have never understood why she does this or what I did to make her hate me and want to see my life in shambles. This is no exaggeration, as she told me point blank while looking directly at me with hatred in her eyes that she will make it her life's  mission to F$#@ my life up! To make matters worse my dad chose to defend her for many years and believe the nasty lies she told him.


To get back to the phone call, I was informed by my friend of her demand that I be evicted from my home so her brother who is moving back to Michigan could live here. She failed in her attempt despite bashing me and spreading more lies to my landlord and friend.

This is where I get excited to share with you the amazing healing and growth I have and am experiencing through You University.  In the past, this phone call would've sent me into a downward emotional spiral. I would have been very angry, hurt and upset and it would've lasted for days and sometimes weeks!

Not this time, I realized upon hanging up that by getting upset and reacting the way I normally did, I was giving her power over me!! I felt nothing, I was able to let it go with no problems. I vowed to myself to never allow her to affect me in anyway again. I felt a strong and profound sense of empowerment and awareness. This alone speaks volumes for the healing and growth taking place on this Journey through You University. 

I cannot say enough about this training program, this program allows you to rid yourself of any and all emotional garbage from your past or present. It helps you to get back to the real you, your true self-that person you have always been but lost along the way! You go through this program and learn tools and techniques that you will use for the rest of your life, ones that truly help and really work towards dealing with situations you are stuck in, don't want to be in, etc... I haven't even touched on the people, the support I have been given, the true friendships I have developed, just all around awesome people who can relate to me, understand my situations and life experience's, as I have said before they get me!

What's more, I firmly believe to be an effective Life Coach you need to have gone through the training, utilize the tools and techniques that you will be using with your clients and continue to do so. That's what makes You University stand out above the other Life Coach programs I researched. It is very thorough and you actually feel and see the results starting with yourself first!!

"REALIZATIONS AND AHA'S"

 I continue to learn so much about myself through You University and I love it! I get to a point where I think I am stuck or blocked and then I am hit with a new realization and/or aha moment. The current assignment I am working on is a prime example. It's a simple assignment involving making a list of the top 10 people I look up to and their values that I admire.

This should've been a breeze, no problem-wrong! I kept getting stuck and frustrated and couldn't understand why! It wasn't until I realized that I had spent so many years avoiding my feelings and emotions and remaining numb, that that's where the problem was.

I am still getting back into the mode of feeling and expressing my emotions and feelings. It's very difficult for me to verbalize how I feel. I struggle to pinpoint what I am feeling. 

I spent so many years in a victim mentality, using avoidance tactics to cope that indeed I am working hard to be able to get in touch fully with my feelings/emotions. 

I love that I was able to see what the problem was for me and work on it! I honestly would've not recognized this prior to beginning this journey through You University. I simply would've walked away and not even dealt with or tried to figure it out.

Yet, another testimonial to the awesomeness that is YOU UNIVERSITY!!!!